I’ve been thinking a lot about fear lately. It’s funny how it can just sneak up on us, isn’t it? One moment you’re all gung-ho about a new idea or a big change, and the next, you’re frozen in your tracks, gripped by fear. It’s something I’ve struggled with, and from my chats with friends and clients, I know I’m not alone. So, I wanted to share with you my own little method for dealing with this sneaky, often overwhelming feeling.

First off, I want to say it’s okay to be scared. Fear is part of being human. But it’s what we do with that fear that really shapes our lives. For me, I’ve found a way to sort of befriend my fears. 

Here’s what I do… 

I allow myself a ‘Fear Fest’ – 15 minutes where I let my mind go wild with all the scary what-ifs. I really dive deep into those fears. What if my project flops? What if people laugh? What if I let myself down? I let all those thoughts and feelings bubble up, feel them fully.

But then, after those 15 minutes, something amazing happens. I start to see that even if the worst-case scenario did happen, it wouldn’t be the end of the world. I’d still be okay. This realization somehow makes the fear less intimidating.

Once I’ve faced these fears head-on, I find it so much easier to take action despite them. I’m not saying the fear goes away completely, but it sort of takes a backseat. 

Here are a few more things I do to keep moving forward, even when fear tries to hold me back:

  • Breaking It Down: I look at the big scary thing in front of me and break it into tiny, manageable steps. It’s like how you eat an elephant, one bite at a time, right?
  • Staying in the Now: Fear loves to live in the future. I try to pull myself back to the present, focusing on what I can do right now, today, to make progress.
  • Talking It Out: Sometimes, just saying my fears out loud to a friend makes them seem less daunting. A problem shared is a problem halved, as they say.
  • Visualizing Success: I spend time picturing how awesome things will be when it all works out. It’s like daydreaming with a purpose.
  • Learning, Not Losing: If things don’t go as planned, I remind myself that it’s not a failure; it’s a learning opportunity. Every mistake is a lesson in disguise.
  • Being My Own Cheerleader: I try to be kind to myself. We’re all human, and it’s totally normal to feel scared. I treat myself like I would a good friend.

Remember, overcoming fear isn’t about never being afraid. It’s about learning to move forward with the fear tagging along. It’s a journey, and each little step you take is a victory.


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